For some decades, there has been a distinction between having sex and making love. Which was created from the religious paradigm, where the ideal that was proposed in terms of making love, was that it should be within marriage and only for reproductive purposes. Over the years, this has been relativized until today, people have begun to talk about having sex. Consequently, talking about having sex is made in reference to the sexual act with the aim of satisfying our needs and when we refer to making love, it is to include in sex, a manifestation of love, empathy and union. In this regard, we know that having sex can be important for a relationship, because it can be a natural expression of love. But what happens in the context of an undefined relationship? I am talking about those “friends” or “acquaintances” with whom one can have sex.
THE ERROR IS IN GETTING CONFUSED
From a polarized vision, we can define that there are times when some women prefer to have casual relationships, in which we only have sex. Instead, sometimes we seek a more serious relationship where we hope to make love.
To be clear about what scenario we are in, we should have excellent communication with our partner or partner. Where everyone is honest about what is really happening. Many times it can happen to us that our partner is not looking for the same thing and we can end up hurt or even hurt the other. Therefore, it is important to know the difference between the two concepts.
Here are some main differences. Do you want to meet them?
During sex, the emotions that can be felt are excitement, desire, pleasure, euphoria, anxiety, among others.
When we refer to making love, the emotions that can be felt are love, tranquility, tenderness, among others. Some other components that may be present are: commitment, concern for the other, care, affection, among others.
It’s important for you to know that when you’re in a more serious relationship, lovemaking should involve much more than just pleasing. There must be complicity, union and intimacy.
2. Before the act In the case of making love, we talk about the famous “foreplay”, which is everything that is done before the act, it can be very important, because it is something much more emotional. It includes caresses, words, how it touches you, among others. It is a moment where the environment for the sexual act begins to be generated and it can be the reflection of many aspects of the relationship, such as: level of communication, commitment, empathy, union, etc.
On the contrary, when we talk about sex, there is rarely this “before”, if not we want to go straight to the act. We do not worry about creating a special environment, or making the other person feel comfortable.
In general, making love can take longer than having sex.
Somehow, when one has sex, we only seek to do it quickly and with the intention of finishing as soon as possible. Unlike when we make love, in this case we take as long as necessary so that we can both reach orgasm and that as a couple we are happy and pleased. This includes the aforementioned “foreplay” and a moment of connection, after the act.
4. After Like the “before”, the “after” is also a basic to differentiate between sex and making love.
When we have sex, what usually happens is that, it is awkward to stay with the other, so the couple quickly gathers their things and leaves. However, when we make love, afterwards there is a moment of intimacy, of tranquility, of enjoying or commenting on what has just been done, among others.
The environment where we are going to have relationships can give us an important clue as to whether we are having sex or making love.
When we make love, we both feel comfortable, the atmosphere is calm, there is trust and generally, it is in a place known to both of us.
But when we have sex or a famous quickie, it can be in the car, in a bathroom, or some other place where they just want to get off quickly.
6. Rhythm Rhythm is also important in making a difference between these two acts.
If the rhythm is very calm, we worry about pleasing our partner with caresses and generally we do not worry about time, but rather we prioritize that we both reach orgasm, ideally at the same time and enjoy the entire process prior to it. So we’re making love.
On the other hand, if the rhythm is fast, the act is done urgently, we look for the fastest way out to reach orgasm in the shortest possible time, then we are having sex.
This topic has already been discussed throughout the article, however, it is relevant to propose it as such, because it is one of the objectives of having sex or making love.
When one has sex, satisfaction is key, because each one has the intention of ending up satisfied and it is the main reason for seeking to have sex. If one of them is not satisfied, then it is most likely that the matter will not continue. In this sense, it can become somewhat selfish, but if it is on both sides, it is not necessarily a bad thing.
As for making love, there is also a desire for self-satisfaction, but it becomes more important to satisfy the other, to show the love that is felt during the act, the idea is that both end up satisfied at the same time and that it is something that both enjoy.
Now that you know some of the differences that we propose in this article, we hope that you have resolved some of your doubts and that you are clear about the scenario you are in, so that no one gets hurt. What do you think?