Who else, who less, at some point in life, has played the role of victims. However, there are people who become eternal victims. They suffer from what we could call “chronic victimization”. These people adopt the role of false victims, as a kind of disguise, either consciously or unconsciously, they are constantly simulating a non-existent aggression or that only they perceive as such, with this they seek to blame others, freeing themselves from all responsibility for what that satisfies them in their lives.
Generally, the one who suffers from chronic victimization ends up embracing and experiencing very negative feelings, such as resentment and anger, which ultimately end up in aggressive victimization. We are talking about the typical case of someone who is not limited to just complaining but goes on to attack and accuse others, being intolerant and continually harming others with his tantrums, complaints and accusations.
X-ray of a chronic victim
They distort reality. They firmly believe that everything that happens to them is everyone else’s fault, every time and forever, never again. Actually, the underlying problem is that chronic victims have a distorted view of reality, they are absolutely convinced that both the positive and negative things that happen in their lives do not depend on their will, but on external circumstances. In addition, they tend to overestimate only the negative aspects, leaving aside the positive ones, thus developing an exacerbated pessimism that at the same time feeds back all their victimhood, it is a vicious circle. They find comfort in lament. They believe that they are victims of others and of the world, so they do not feel guilty or responsible. That is why it is logical for them that, The only thing left for them is to mourn. In fact, they even tend to find pleasure and joy in the act of complaining because that way they better assume their role as “poor victims” and achieve their ultimate goal, which is to attract the attention of others. They do not seek a solution to their problems, they only lament their misfortunes in the unbridled search for compassion and protagonism.
They continually look for culprits. They develop a suspicious and resentful attitude, they assume that others always act in bad faith, only to trip them up, they believe they are the center of the lives of others, that everyone is acting to harm them. For this reason, they tend to have an almost morbid desire to discover alleged offenses, feel discriminated against or mistreated, only to reaffirm their role as eternal victims. Thus, they end up developing a hypersensitivity and become specialists in forming a storm in a glass of water.
They are incapable of honest self-criticism. They are convinced that they are not to blame for anything, so there is nothing to criticize in their behavior, it is that simple everything is in their mind. Since the responsibility lies with others, they do not accept constructive criticism and, much less, carry out an exercise in self-criticism. For chronic victims, the mistakes and shortcomings of others are intolerable, while their own are mere subtlety, unimportant nonsense. After all, the victims are them.
They use and abuse emotional manipulation
One of the preferred strategies of chronic victims is emotional manipulation and blackmail. When they know their interlocutor quite well, they will not hesitate to resort to emotional blackmail to put the pieces in their favor and adopt the role of victim, it is after all the one that works best for them. On the other hand, these people are very adept at recognizing emotions and reading others, so they use any shadow of doubt or guilt to their advantage.