Going through a breakup is not easy at all, we have all been through that terrible situation, but time sooner or later helps you heal the wounds, we just have to do our part realizing when it is time, say goodbye and not prolong that agony . Relationships are like a business, we invest and expect profits, and like any business, there are days that go well, others bad, and others in which it more than recovers, but if it is only generating losses, like any business we must close it, the analogy sounds cold , but basically it is.
If that love that once made us sigh between caresses and kisses was fading. We feel nostalgic for better times in which laughter abounded and the characteristic and fundamental complicity of any relationship. YES now they have disappeared, and as much as we do our part that does not improve, we are already facing a worn relationship and it is time to give it a point either to reformulate it or end it. We lie to each other daily to convince ourselves that everything will be better, that it is a moment of doubt that we will overcome no matter how difficult it is, but deep down we are sure that this relationship is over, one always knows, even if it hurts to admit it. Sometimes we think that it is a passing crisis, we remember movie couples that the only thing they separate for is to end up together again and that we will end up the same with a happy ending, but this is real life and sometimes it is quite far from that movie ending, since we are much less stable people than those of a romantic movie ideal. At this moment you are in the denial stage that is part of the process, you try to justify their behavior or yours, the first thing we think is: “it will change” it seems impossible to believe that even at this point we continue to believe that it is possible to change our partner . He will not change, much less for us. People change over time and due to various circumstances, but not by our will, other times we continue betting with the “last chances” if in the plural because it is never the last, we usually tire our friends and loved ones with this phrase. since we are much less stable people than those of a romantic movie ideal. At this moment you are in the denial stage that is part of the process, you try to justify their behavior or yours, the first thing we think is: “it will change” it seems impossible to believe that even at this point we continue to believe that it is possible to change our partner . He will not change, much less for us. People change over time and due to various circumstances, but not by our will, other times we continue betting with the “last chances” if in the plural because it is never the last, we usually tire our friends and loved ones with this phrase. since we are much less stable people than those of a romantic movie ideal. At this moment you are in the denial stage that is part of the process, you try to justify their behavior or yours, the first thing we think is: “it will change” it seems impossible to believe that even at this point we continue to believe that it is possible to change our partner . He will not change, much less for us. People change over time and due to various circumstances, but not by our will, other times we continue betting with the “last chances” if in the plural because it is never the last, we usually tire our friends and loved ones with this phrase. “will change” it seems impossible to believe that even at this point we continue to believe that it is possible to change our partner. He will not change, much less for us. People change over time and due to various circumstances, but not by our will, other times we continue betting with the “last chances” if in the plural because it is never the last, we usually tire our friends and loved ones with this phrase. “will change” it seems impossible to believe that even at this point we continue to believe that it is possible to change our partner. He will not change, much less for us. People change over time and due to various circumstances, but not by our will, other times we continue betting with the “last chances” if in the plural because it is never the last, we usually tire our friends and loved ones with this phrase.
Blaming ourselves is another of the excuses we make, totally not admitting that it is something that is over, saying: I must have more patience, or I must understand it more, convincing us that it is not the relationship that is going through a crisis but your being. loved one, justifying their actions with family problems, or work, and although a relationship is based on patience and understanding, being extremely patient and justifying even the unjustifiable can lead to despair and unhappiness. Many times we associate this type of behavior with those who have low self-esteem, but it turns out that to a lesser or greater extent, we all have a little voice that tries to scare us constantly, that tells us that we are not good enough, that loads us with guilt and that we can not be alone enduring anything, for that we must reflect and learn to ignore that voice that pulls us down. Because when something ends, it ends, we should not dwell on the matter, and above all we should not waste any more time. At the end of the day, we all know deep down when we have done enough, when we have given everything we could, when we have exceeded the limits of dignity and respect for ourselves.
So don’t hold on to the past and let go, will it hurt? Yes, and a lot. You will miss him, but no one said that the duel of losing someone was easy, but you will see that when you least expect it you will release it with all the peace in the world and your heart and mind will thank you later. Making the decision to say here it comes, fills us with doubts of nostalgia and sadness, leaving behind memories, people, places, it is very difficult, however, when we have given all the best of us, when what we gave is simply everything, Those feelings start to disappear, we begin to arm ourselves with courage and with a clear conscience we realize that we can leave in peace.
We have already said it and repeated it several times: it is difficult, but here are some tips that can help you overcome it:
First of all, don’t pretend that nothing happens, you may fool people, but never your heart. We must try to become aware that every situation that comes our way in life, in one way or another we have attracted it, and that is what we need to know in order to move forward. When we understand this, it will be easier for us to find the right path to freedom.
Sometimes love exists but nothing else unites them, loving someone is the most beautiful thing that can happen to you, but if you realize that love is really just habit; you need to give yourself a break and think things through and if you still love him, wish him the best, send him light in everything he does. You must understand that if this happened it is because it was inevitable, in these moments the failures and the successes become evident and the only thing left for you is to forgive them even though it seems that it is not possible. The truth is that no matter who was to blame, it is something that was going to happen at some point.
You need to vent, try a trusted person, those who love us will always have a word of encouragement for us, good advice from them, it can be our best guide in times of darkness, those who love us and know us well have a high probability of knowing our reaction to certain situations in life, it will always be beneficial to learn to listen to those we love. If, no matter how much you have these people, you have a hard time opening up and telling your things, you can write on paper and burn it later, externalizing it in some way also helps.
Distract yourself, dedicate time to activities that you like, you need to keep your mind busy because your heart will constantly try to sabotage you, try to be more intelligent. Be aware that both deserve better, even if they fear being destroyed this present. Be aware that there can always be that person who does not recognize our value, but in love, each of us is responsible for what he feels, and the other cannot be blamed for that. It is normal to have doubts in life, we are not perfect, we are not infallible, fear and uncertainty will appear, especially when we have already experienced disappointment, although we learn from our mistakes, failure forces us to be stronger, but feel fear it is unavoidable,
Giving an end to a story that was important to us does not mean giving up, on the contrary, it is being brave, it is about realizing when enough is enough, and that no matter how hard we try, we will not be able to change certain situations, and that will not It has to represent the end of the world. The true act of letting go is the one that comes with a great deal of gratitude, thanking for something that still hurts us, and that had a negative consequence on us, requires a lot of wisdom, a lot of faith and the love that we have for each other.
