When it comes to virginity, there are many myths about it. And while the phrase “losing your virginity” might lead you to imagine a girl hemorrhaging blood, that’s not how it works. But do women bleed the first time?
Many people think that after the first time all women bleed, but now we know that this is not true. 60% to 65% of women experienced no bleeding after the first time they had intercourse upon penetration.
While some women bleed after having penis-in-vagina sex for the first time, others don’t, and whether or not they bleed says nothing about whether they were “really” a virgin or not.
But let’s talk about virginity, blood and what to expect the first time she has sex with you.
What does it mean to “lose your virginity”?
Let’s get one thing straight: there are many different ways to have sex. While society tends to think of losing one’s virginity as a straight woman, or a straight man having penis-in-vagina sex for the first time, that’s a definition that excludes many people and many kinds of sex.
Many LGBTQ people go their entire lives without having sex when it comes to penetration, after all.
When it comes down to it, virginity is a social construct, not a biological reality, and unless you’ve had sex recently, a doctor won’t be able to tell the difference between a vagina that has had sex and a vagina that hasn’t.
Is it normal for a woman to bleed when she loses her virginity?
Let’s focus on penetrative vaginal sex for now, we’ll come back to other types of sex later.
Many men think that everyone who has a vagina bleeds after the first time they have sex, but we know this is not true.
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Numbers vary, but a 2001 study found that between 60% and 65% of women experienced no bleeding after the first time they had penetrative sex.
Therefore, bleeding and no bleeding are normal, but it is more common not to bleed.
How much do women bleed after losing their virginity?
There are two main reasons why women may bleed after their first time having sex and being penetrated: hymen tear and lack of lubrication.
We’ll talk about this in a minute, but first, you should keep in mind that when we say “bleed,” we’re talking about a little bit of blood: you may notice a red stain on the condom, you may see some blood on the toilet paper when you wipe after urinating (what you should do after sex), or you may notice a few drops of blood on your underwear.
This blood looks more like the spots you may see between periods than a full period.
break the famous hymen
There are many misconceptions about the hymen, which is also called the vaginal crown, or simply the crown.
The hymen is a thin membrane that partially covers the entrance to a vagina. This much-discussed membrane is elastic and thin, and is found near the vaginal opening.
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It’s what we call a vestigial characteristic, which means that while it may have had a purpose thousands of years ago, our bodies don’t really need these types of membranes, like your wisdom teeth or your appendix.
Some women are born with more hymen tissue than others, and some are born without a hymen. And while certain descriptions of the hymen make it sound like solid tissue that she can “tear,” that’s not really how it works.
In addition to being elastic, for the vast majority of women, the hymen does not completely cover the vaginal opening.
Your hymen will gradually wear away throughout your life, for many reasons: from hormonal changes to menstrual blood, masturbation, physical activity and, yes, sex.
Also many women think that they can “lose their virginity” by using a tampon, exercising or riding a horse, and this is not true, because those activities do not compare to sex (trust me).
If you bleed after having sex for the first time, it could be because your hymen has been stretched or torn, but it doesn’t “break.” And you can stretch or tear your hymen at other times, doing totally non-sexual activities, which you’ll also notice a little blood.
She really needs to lube up during her first time
A common reason some women bleed after the first time is because their vagina wasn’t very lubricated and the friction caused by sex caused some damage; this also means that sex can be uncomfortable or painful.
To avoid this, make sure she’s highly aroused before you have sex: foreplay, oral sex, or fingering help to arouse her rather than going straight for penetration.
Also, use lube – it adds a little extra moisture and makes everything feel better (just keep in mind that oil-based lubes aren’t safe when using condoms). If you bleed after having sex when it’s not your first time, this could be the explanation too.
Other reasons why women bleed after sex
In some cases, bleeding after sex can indicate a health condition such as a vaginal infection or endometriosis. If you bleed the first time you have sex, but not after, this is probably not the reason.
But if she continues to notice bleeding with more frequent intercourse, then a visit to a doctor will be necessary.
If it continues to bleed, it could be a tear in the vagina from aggressive sex, or there could be something wrong with the cervix.
And if it’s something that continues, it should definitely be checked out by a gynecologist.
What if you don’t bleed after losing your virginity?
If she doesn’t bleed after losing her virginity, that doesn’t mean she wasn’t a virgin. As we said, different women have different amounts of hymenal tissue and different amounts of lubrication, and more than half of the women who have had penetrative intercourse did not bleed after their first time.
So if she’s worried that I won’t bleed I’m not “special” anymore. Then you can tell your partner what you just learned, and tell him that this is not significant.
What happens to the bleeding if other types of sex are practiced?
Vaginas can bleed after any type of sex that involves vaginal penetration, such as fingering or using a sex toy, for reasons similar to bleeding after penetrative sex: the hymen is stretched or torn, the fingers or toy cause bleeding. a strain or minor cut, or one of the health conditions listed above.
Bleeding after anal sex (or anal dilation or use of a sex toy ) can also indicate a tear or stretch, or a hemorrhoid (a swollen vein in your anus), and in rare cases, a hole in your colon. You shouldn’t bleed after any type of oral sex, so if you do, you should see a doctor.
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If your penis bleeds after any type of sex, the urethra, prostate, or foreskin may have been irritated, but it could also indicate a health condition, so both should see a doctor.
How to help her on her first time
- Make sure she’s really turned on
This will get her wet and that’s important for the first time.
- Use a lot of lubricant
This will be much better for her and she will have less chance of bleeding.
- Ask him how he feels. Does it hurt or not?
While some women feel mild pain or discomfort when they have sexual intercourse for the first time (or the first few times), if you start having sex and feel bad, it’s best to stop.
Another option is to try other sexual positions or oral sex (if she’s ready for that).
- communicate with your girl
You have to make her feel really comfortable during her first time.
This means that they have to communicate.
Make sure you give it time and do everything very slowly. Rough sex is not the best during your first time.
Remember, sex should be fun and it should feel good.
Read the Master Method of Sex and make sure that sex is always fun for both of you. Become a Sex Master and she’ll be a hot slut (only in bed, of course. Outside she’ll still be your pretty decent princess).
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