Much is written about what they should do in bed to please women. It is normal that sex articles tend to be focused on the male sector: most have no idea how to treat a female under the sheets (or out of bed, but that’s another topic). From this section we want to be egalitarian, that’s why today we will dedicate a topic to what ladies have to do in terms of sexual relations. Also, to be completely fair, we must recognize that there are many girls who have no idea how to be a ten in bed.
The reasons for your malpractice are different from theirs. As a general rule, they don’t know how to act, and they know how to act, but they are self-conscious for dozens of reasons. One of the most powerful, details the sexologist Tracey Cox in ‘The Daily Mail’, is the fear they have when they think that if they behave wildly horizontally, their lover will stop seeing them with the eyes of a “future wife” and only as a “lover”.
Women considered good in bed do not hesitate to take the first step. Many of them want it strongly, they make insinuations, but they don’t get to act “They try not to be the ‘whore’ or ‘bitch’ girl because they want to take them home to meet their parents. But they forget that that ‘bitch’ girl (in bed) is the one who will take away their place in the relationship,” says the expert, who recommends that all women behave with their lover (or that person they just met). ) as they really feel, without falling into stupid and outdated prejudices.
1) They take the initiative
“She never takes the first step” or “I always have to be the one to initiate the sexual relationship” are the main male complaints in this very intimate field. Tracey is clear: if you always let him be the one to start, bad. Women considered good in bed do not cut themselves at the beginning of the relationship. Many want it strongly, they insinuate themselves, but they do not act. Enough already, if you want, let him know. They love it.
2) They are not prejudiced
Often happens. He proposes something new in bed and she answers with a resounding NO!, intrinsically linked to her thought “he always knew he was weird”. Woman, free yourself. Maybe you even like it. We are obviously referring to common propositions. Everyone has somewhat strange fantasies or predilections. The subject of the same considers them “particularities”, while his partner can see them as “perverted”.
It has always been said that you can see if someone is good or bad in bed depending on how much or how little they like to give and receive oral sex. hurt me (or him or someone else) physically or emotionally? If the answer is negative, what are you waiting for? Open-minded women are what men consider to be cracks in bed”, details Tracey.
3) They are not afraid to say ‘NO’
Related to the previous point, it is not always necessary to say yes. Not much less. Women who say yes to each and every request for the sole purpose of pleasing their partner is anything but sexy. The sexologist recounts that once a man went to her consultation, and told her that he had completely lost her desire for her girlfriend because everything he proposed was accepted and accepted by her. “It was too obvious that there was no enjoyment on both sides,” says the expert.
The boy in question claimed that his partner was watching him carefully to see if he was enjoying himself, completely forgetting about his own pleasure. “Actually, he had no idea what she liked about him, because he never let her know.” Tracey says that occasionally you have to please your partner by doing things that he likes, but also ask. “Sexual honesty is essential.”
4) They like to try new things
“I have hundreds of emails on this topic: ‘Why don’t you want to watch porn with me / let me shave your sex / keep your shoes on during intercourse / look at us in a mirror / masturbate for me / go out without underwear?’ . What basically comes out of all of these issues is some women’s reluctance to do things they’ve never seen or done before,” says Tracey.
The matter is very clear: imagine that you always have a hamburger for dinner, that you love it but… that you end up getting tired after a while. Well, the same thing happens with relationships: sleeping with the same person is like having the same food over and over again. That is why you have to innovate from time to time.
5) They praise the penis
Men are not only concerned about the size of their penis: also how long it stays hard and what it looks like (is it pretty or ugly). Those who are good in bed regularly pay attention to their partner’s penis: they look at it, they talk to it (within limits), they praise it (‘oh, how big and hard’)… and they love it.
6) They are very good at oral sex
It has always been said (and we totally agree) that you can tell if someone is good or bad in bed depending on how much or how little they like to give and receive oral sex.
If your partner suggests you do something that you have never considered, think, will it hurt me? If the answer is negative, what are you waiting for?
Think about it: there is nothing more intimate than letting the other person put their mouth on your genitals, or vice versa. Much more personal than standard intercourse. “Oral sex is the most personal side of relationships, and doing it (and receiving it) means you are not scrupulous and accept that sex is chaotic and sweaty.”
7) They guide you under the sheets
All men want to be the best that has passed through the sheets of their current partner. A little out of ego and a little out of love for the other person, because there is nothing more beautiful than making someone you love enjoy. As we said at the beginning of the topic, they often don’t do it well because they simply don’t know how. That is why it is good that she gives instructions, and only those who are good, sexually speaking, do so. “He wants instructions on how to pleasure you, but he doesn’t want to ask for fear of looking foolish,” says Tracey. You can be more subtle: when he does something you like exactly the way you like him, let him know with a “keep doing exactly that”.
8) They make noise (but not too much)
Have you ever had sex with someone who was super quiet and didn’t make a sound? We do, and it’s quite disconcerting. It seems as if you are with a dead person or a robot. Just as disturbing are those individuals who do not stop talking or moaning very loudly. There is a point in between that is just right, and the same one that the ‘sex cracks’ dominate to perfection.
Go ahead! Sex is life, don’t let them tell you otherwise.
Fuente: latribuna.com
