Learn about the story of Holly Butcher, a relatively young 27-year-old Australian who decided to share what she felt from her heart through a letter that would be released after her death. In the writing she tells us about her experiences and learnings, as well as the way in which her life took a change at the moment that she knew that she would die soon.
The letter began with a heartbreaking title: “I am 27 years old now. I do not want to leave. I love my life”, so expresses the letter of a girl who, after fighting cancer and dying on a Thursday in January, moved the world when her message was uploaded to the networks and quickly became virilized.
The young woman died on January 3, after her death and following her wishes, her family a day later spread a text on social networks that she herself wrote and left for the moment of her death. At the time of uploading her writing, she managed to reach in a short time more than 10,000 likes, as well as 2,300 comments and 8,000 shares, it did not take long for the news to reach various media. The media revealed that Holly had a year-long fight against Edwin’s sarcoma, a cancer that affects her bones.
In the middle of the writing it was possible to take some of the most emotional and thought-provoking phrases such as: “That is what happens with life, it is fragile, precious, unpredictable and every day is a gift, not an acquired right”.
“I just want people to stop worrying so much about life’s petty little stresses and try to remember that we all have the same destiny after all, so do what you can to make your time worthy and great, no shit.” ”.
Shocking message for you from a young woman who died at the age of 27. Here is the complete letter: https://es.aleteia.org/2018/01/15/la-carta-de-adios-de-holly-butcher-te-hara-replantearte-tu-vida/
Posted by Me encanta mi vida on Sunday, January 14, 2018
“In this last year I lived some of the best moments of my life”. We offer you the complete letter so that you can read and think about how you have the time of your life… A little advice from Hol:
It is a very strange thing to accept your mortality when you are 26 years old. It’s one of those things you always ignore. The days go by and you expect them to go on until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself getting old, with gray hair, with a beautiful family (a lot of guys). Plan to have the love of my life. I love him so much it hurts.
This is life. It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and every day is a gift, not an acquired right.
I am 27 years old. I do not want to leave. I love my life. I’m happy. I owe it to my loved ones. But it’s all out of my control.
I did not start this letter as ‘a note before I die’ because I am afraid of death. I like the fact that we are ignorant of its inevitability. Except when I want to talk about it and it’s treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us. It has been a bit difficult. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small and insignificant stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same destiny after all, so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, no bullshit. . I leave some of my thoughts below. I’ve had a lot of time to reflect on life these past few months. Of course, it’s the middle of the night when these ideas pop into my head.
Those times that make you want ridiculous things (something I’ve noticed so much in the last few months). Be thankful for having small problems and overcoming them. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is upsetting, but try not to continue and not negatively affect anyone.
Once you do that, go outside and take a deep breath deep into your lungs, see how blue the sky is and how green the trees are. It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do that: breathe. You may have gotten stuck in traffic or slept poorly because your beautiful babies kept you awake or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails may have a splinter, your breasts are too small, or you have cellulite on your butt and your tummy is wobbly. Let all that shit go. I swear you won’t think about those things when it’s your turn to go. Everything is SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I am watching my body disappear right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I can have one more birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my boyfriend and my dog. Just One More.
I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or how hard it is to work out. Be thankful that you can do it physically. Work and exercise can seem trivial until your body won’t let you do either.
I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my biggest passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body, even if it’s not the ideal size. Take care of it and accept how amazing it is. Move it and feed it with fresh products. But don’t obsess over it.
Remember that there are more aspects to good health than the physical. Work just as hard to find mental, emotional, and spiritual happiness. In this way, you might realize how insignificant and irrelevant having a stupid perfect body is on social media. Delete any account that appears on your timeline that gives you a feeling of feeling bad about yourself. Be your friend or not, be ruthless for your own well-being. Be grateful for every day that you don’t have pain and even for the days that you feel bad with the flu, have a bad back or a sprained ankle, accept that it sucks, but be thankful that it doesn’t endanger your life.
Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I had done this more. Since I have been ill I have met the most incredibly generous and kind people. And I have received the warmest words and support from my family, friends and strangers. More than I could give in return. I will never forget this and I will be eternally grateful to all these people.
It’s a strange thing to have money to spend when you’re dying. I’m not in a time to go out and buy material things, like a new dress. I think it’s silly to make so much money on new “stuff.” Buy something for a friend instead of a new dress. 1. Nobody cares if you wear the same thing twice. 2. It feels good. Take him out to eat or, better yet, cook him something. Give him a plant, a massage or a candle and tell him you love him when you give it to him.
Value time with other people. Don’t keep them waiting because you suck at being on time. Appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
This year our family agreed not to give gifts and even though the tree looked pretty sad and empty (I almost broke down on Christmas Eve!), it was really nice because people weren’t pressured to go shopping and everyone put in the effort for writing a good card for others. Also imagine my family trying to buy me a present. It may sound lame, but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase ever could. Of course, it was also easier to do it because there were no children. Still, the bottom line is that gifts aren’t necessary for a meaningful Christmas.
Use your money on experiences. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spend all your money on material goods.
He makes the effort to take that trip to the beach that you always put off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes into the sand. Wet your face with salt water.
Try to just enjoy the moments instead of capturing them with your phone screen. Life is not meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo… enjoy the damn moment! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random rhetorical question. Are the hours you spend doing your hair and makeup every day really worth it? I’ve never understood that about women. Get up early a few times and listen to the birds as you watch the beautiful colors the sun makes as it rises.
Listen to music…really listen. Music is therapy. The older the better.
Hug your dog. By far, I will miss that.
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone.
Travel if it is your wish. Do not do it if it is not your wish.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
Eat cake. No blame.
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life. You may want a mediocre life and that’s fine.
Tell your loved ones that you love them whenever you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
Also, remember that if something is making you feel bad, you have the power to change it: at work or in love, or whatever. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how long you have on Earth, so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that’s said all the time, but it couldn’t be more true.
Anyway, that’s just life advice for young people. Take it or leave it, I don’t care!
Oh, and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity and start donating blood regularly. It will make you feel good with the added benefit of saving lives. I feel like it’s something that gets overlooked considering that each donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact that each person can have and the process really is very simple.
The blood donation helped me stay alive for another year; a year that I have been eternally grateful to spend here on Earth with my family, my friends and my dog. A year in which I had some of the best moments of my life.
Until we meet again