The Ultimate Guide to Dirty Talking for Beginners
Talking dirty is awesome and essential to having awesome sex.
However, the first time it can be a bit strange to do it.
Most people feel completely embarrassed and ridiculous at the thought of trying, and this is because they haven’t learned a few basics. In bed, when a girl says “Talk dirty to me, baby…”, you won’t know what dirty talk is, and you might stutter and not know what to do about it.
“What should I say?
What does she want me to say?
What if I go too far?
What if I sound dumb or stupid?
Talking dirty is an aspect of eroticism that is often overlooked, but it is very powerful.
Just like sex itself, dirty talk is something that needs to be calibrated for the recipient. Maybe something you qualify as “dirty talk” is something the other person might see as offensive, silly, or downright crazy, and vice versa.
Let’s make things clear and establish some ground rules.
This is the definitive guide to talking dirty. I’ll walk you through the things you should generally avoid, include, and not try altogether, so you can master the topic of dirty talk.
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How to use the vocabulary to talk dirty
Each person has their particular trigger words, which feel too jarring for them.
Some people love to have their dirty words filled with profanity, others hate it.
Some people like to be called “slut” while others will never want to be called even as the word slut during sex.
You should talk to your girl (outside the bedroom, when you’re not having sex) to see if there are any words she wants you to avoid during your dirty talk.
What almost always works is avoiding biological descriptions of genitalia such as the penis, vagina, breasts, or buttocks.
It will become drier than a desert.
No, use the dirtiest street vocabulary.
- Rear
- Ass
- dick
- Cone
- Papaya
- breasts
- Tits
This vocabulary will make all women extremely horny. This will create an additional dynamic in your sexual experience.
However, you must use this in the correct way (I will talk about this later in this article).
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Say what you want and say what she wants
A good universal rule of thumb for dirty talk is to tell your partner what you want to do with her/and have her tell you what she wants, and then while you’re at it, describe specifically what you like about it.
Women are often aroused through imagination. This is why erotic books like 50 Shades of Gray are infamous hits with female readers. Meanwhile, boys are dominating their use of porn because their arousal has more direct visual triggers.
It can take a little longer to get a woman’s water to a boil, so to speak, while the man can be horny out of the blue.
This is partly because men and women are wired differently. Guys are more singular in their approach, while women can have many things on their minds at once when it comes to sexual arousal.
You need to captivate her attention and replace whatever else is going on in her head with something stronger and sexier. If you do, those juices will start flowing and she’ll be much more receptive to intimacy.
For example, you might have a female partner with a relatively high sexual desire, but she only seems to get turned on when she’s “in the mood,” and you can always keep guessing when that will be. She wants to have sex more often, but she doesn’t get to think about it the way it should be.
The solution?
dirty talk.
This ability is what separates the loving black belt from the clumsy grasshopper. Instead of trying to cold-start the engine with ever-increasing physical touch, the teacher prepares the engine by climaxing her with her words, before he even lays a hand on her.
What you say will be based on what you really want at the moment or what turns you on.
Any statement about what you’ve enjoyed doing with her in the past, or what you’re envisioning doing with her in the future, is a great way to elicit emotions from her like never before.
And while you’re playing, give your partner real-time feedback on what you’re enjoying. It’s a great way to motivate her to give you more of that, and it also gives your sex play the added bonus of becoming a more multi-sensory experience.
“I want to fuck you until I can feel that sweet cunt squeezing around my cock.”
“I want you to ride me harder.”
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You must be descriptive about what you feel and see
For a lot of people, it’s the details of the dirty talk that make it so exciting.
For the record, there is absolutely nothing wrong with statements like “Yeah, I like that,” “You look so sexy,” and “I love having sex with you.”
But they can improve things massively, if you change those sentences by being a bit more descriptive.
“I love your taste/smell. I could get drunk on your juices/scent so easily.”
“I love the sounds you make.”
“You sound so sexy when I’m making you mine.”
“Keep doing that. I love your little hands for all my balls / chest.
“I love you and your perfect/delicious/sexy big/little (body part).”
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Cheer up and take the leap into the unknown
You may already notice some internal tension building as you read this, just by thinking of saying some of these things out loud.
At first, just opening your mouth and letting these words out can feel like standing on the edge of a cliff.
That paralyzing sense of risk is most often generated by fear of negative judgment from the other person, which can be amplified by having been raised in a religiously or sexually repressed family or culture.
Your mind is blocked because it believes that it is not safe to go where you are going, and you want to protect yourself from spoiling and ruining the positive image that your partner has of you.
Always start with beginner phrases like.
“I love it when you talk to me like that.”
“You’re so sexy”.
“Ughhh… I love your body so much.”
“I love the way you look at me when you’re turned on.”
“Mmm… I can tell you’re having fun.”
“I could spend all day between your legs.”
This is a sure way to start the dirty talk.
And not just for you. Also for your girl.
You don’t want to be angry. Many women are not ready for advanced dirty talk at first. So you have to go slowly.
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37 phrases to talk dirty
For those of you looking for a little more practical phrases to include in your dirty talk, I have these phrases.
“Mmm… you taste so good baby.”
“Your beautiful body feels so good in my hands, baby.”
“Are you ready for me to penetrate you?”
“I love what you’re doing to me right now”
“I’m getting closer”
“Hmm… do you like that?”
“Just lie back and let me take care of you.”
“I’m getting so hard.”
“Tell me how much you love it when I fuck you.”
“I want you to be as loud as you can when you cum.”
“You have such a perfect ass/cunt.”
“You’re a good whore, aren’t you?”
“Ask my permission before I cum… I want to hear you beg for it.”
“You look so fucking sexy right now.”
“Hmm… good girl. I want you to cum for me, hard.”
“Tell me how much you want me to fuck you.”
“Show me how wet you are, my little whore.”
“I want you to fuck me until we wake up the neighbors.”
“Fuck me harder!”
“I love it when you grind that little clit on me.”
I am the owner of this cute kitty.
“I want you to choke my dick.”
“Ride me stronger. «
“Keep that pretty little mouth open when I’m fucking her.”
“What a well-educated bitch you are.”
“That pretty little face deserves to be fucked.”
“Don’t make a sound until I tell you to…and if you do, I’m going to pause and wait until you can be quiet again, like a good girl.”
“You’re going to need crutches when I’m done fucking you.”
“Tell me who owns this fucking cone.”
“I love it when I can feel you tighten your cone around me.”
“You have a very talented little mouth.”
“You have such a perfect little pussy… I love it.”
(Taking her hand and putting it on her vagina) “Show me how you touch yourself baby…I want to see you surrender to your deepest pleasure for me.”
“Mmm… I love it when you ride me like that.”
Get on your knees now.
“You look like a sexy little angel with your lips wrapped around me.”
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Talking dirty supercharges your sex life
I know talking dirty can be intimidating at times, but the best thing to do is start with something tame and start getting used to it.
Start small, build up over time, and ask your partner (outside their sex game) if they have a preference for the words you use, or don’t use, in your dirty talk repertoire.
It can be a bit awkward at first, but there is a great feeling of freedom, when your partner tells you that he likes what you say. It really changes the whole dynamic of your sexual life in such an easy and sustainable way.
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