Love is that universal feeling that makes us immortal and invincible in the eyes of this world, and certainly implacable in the face of life. We charge ourselves with energy and feel almighty. But, love is for two, it is what we are building with four hands, learning to go through life with someone special, because even in the midst of any storm, we know that we will be safe because someone else walks by our side. However, if along the way you feel alone, without him fighting each battle with the same impetus that you do, then it’s not worth it, he doesn’t deserve you. If love can be so magical, why do we allow ourselves to suffer?
“She shook my hand and there was no need for more. She reached out to me to feel that I was welcome. More than kissing her, more than sleeping together, more than anything else, she held my hand and that was love.” A beautiful poem by Mario Benedetti prays, because before the eloquence of these words, who would dare to doubt what love is about?
Give abundantly and wait for the bargaining chip
When we love and love too much, we expect everything to be reciprocated from the other party. Loving, as we said, is not a one-person issue. When you love, you love someone and the logical and elementary thing is that someone returns that same feeling to us and with the same intensity. The return of what we give must be as consistent as what we deliver. In love there are no half measures. The equation is simple to solve: either you love or you don’t love. You don’t love “more or less”, “a little” or “in her way and I in mine”, if you really love you feel it and there is nothing more behind the scenes. If we give, we must receive, if we do not receive or what we receive is not what we deserve but misunderstanding, mistreatment, contempt, then the relationship is a nonsense. You must distance yourself from people who do not respect or value you. If that’s the kind of love you live, Understand that he is not for you, you deserve much more. If in the relationship in which you find yourself it is you who delivers love in abundance, if you receive contempt, permanent criticism, if your partner does not value what you do for him, what you give him, if they fill you with promises, but not facts concrete, then, you may be wasting the best years of your life and you need to stop moving and decide to rethink your situation and ask yourself if that was what you expected. Perhaps your sacrifice is not worth it if the other party does not give you in their life the place that truly belongs to you and you deserve. If they fill you with promises, but not with concrete facts, then you may be wasting the best years of your life and you need to stop moving and decide to rethink your situation and ask yourself if that was what you expected. Perhaps your sacrifice is not worth it if the other party does not give you in their life the place that truly belongs to you and you deserve. If they fill you with promises, but not with concrete facts, then you may be wasting the best years of your life and you need to stop moving and decide to rethink your situation and ask yourself if that was what you expected. Perhaps your sacrifice is not worth it if the other party does not give you in their life the place that truly belongs to you and you deserve.
Pay attention to the warning signs: if you feel bad, you don’t deserve it
Life is not easy, we know that. We all have responsibilities, work, family, complications are the order of the day. We go through situations of extreme stress, but even so, the couple is always present, because they are the ones who are there to contain us, to hold us and accompany us. This is how it should be. It happens that on many occasions we give ourselves over to the arms of problems and we push aside our partner or worse, we downplay what happens to them, we believe that nothing is more important than our problems and what happens to the other seems to us minutiae and it is not. This is usually very common, especially in couples who have been together for a long time. Make your partner see that you are there for him when he needs you, that he feels that he can count on you whenever he needs you, but, on the other hand, He must do the same when you need him, that the problems of each one are never a reason for estrangement or abandonment of the couple, on the contrary, it is time to become strong together. But, if you feel that he does not take into account that he should and can count on you or if you are the one who needs it and he does not respond as you would, something is wrong, perhaps that love is not as great as you thought it was.
The ways of love
They say there are only two ways to love: the way we love and the way they love us. Sometimes, both seem not to meet and other times they fit like a puzzle in which everything is definitely as we sound. But, in reality, although everyone loves as they know how to love, in their own way, the important thing, in essence, is that you feel loved, even if they are neither your ways nor your ways, if you have learned to concatenate your love with his and you really feel that reciprocity in love, matters of form and manner matter little.
The important thing is the quality of that love we receive, but nothing should worry you.
Do not stay in a relationship in which you are the one who rows all the time without ceasing and the person who is by your side simply follows the course of the waters, but does nothing to help you carry out what you must build together. If you feel alone, without support, or in the worst case you are mistreated and what you do for the relationship and for him is not valued as it should be, don’t stay, run away. That’s not love. He does not deserve you. Stay in that relationship where grabbing doesn’t mean leaving the other breathless and letting go doesn’t have to mean goodbye.