While some believe that to achieve happiness you must have a career, be a millionaire or find love, none of these actions would be necessary to feel fully happy, according to research from Harvard University. The prestigious university’s teacher is the happiness guru who provides his students with tools to achieve success and face life with more joy. In the study, it is defined as “the science of happiness” by the Israeli doctor Tal Ven Shahar, Specialist in Positive Psychology. From the expert’s teachings to his psychology students at Harvard University, it could be said that they are now a little happier, since he explains that joy can be learned as if it were a sport. The expert gives six tips to make one feel lucky and happy:
1. Forgive your failures or celebrate them Take
for granted that it is impossible to live without negative emotions because they are part of life and it is as natural as joy, happiness and well-being. In this way, the expert says that we must give ourselves the right to be more human and forgive our weaknesses. Previous studies found that forgiveness prevents the individual from becoming depressed, feeling anxious and having low self-esteem.
2. Appreciate everything good
Whether the gesture is big or small, you should be thankful and stop thinking that things come because we deserve them and because they will always be there for us.
3. Play sports
It doesn’t have to be a strong routine. Just do a light exercise for 30 minutes every day. This helps the brain produce endorphins and makes you feel happy, you don’t feel pain and you have a feeling of well-being or pleasure, according to the runner Luis Javier Gonzalez.
4. Simplify leisure and work.
“Let’s identify what is truly important, and focus on it,” recommends Tal Ben-Shahar. The best thing is to turn off the phone and disconnect from work to have a good time with the family.
5. Practice meditation
Meditation helps to better face problems, according to Dr. Miriam Subirana of the University of Barcelona. In addition, it becomes a time to control one’s thoughts and focus on the positive side.
6. Practice resilience
“Our level of happiness will be determined by what we look at and the attributions of success or failure,” said the expert. In other words, resilience is the place where we place responsibility for the events. Don’t stop seeing failure as an opportunity. Happiness depends on our state of mind. Specifically, “our level of happiness will be determined by what we look at and the attributions of success or failure,” says Ben Shahar. Depressive patients attribute failures to themselves, and success to situations external to their person; while positive people tend to hang their medals, and problems, “almost better for someone else to keep them.” However, in this way we lose the perception of failure as an ‘opportunity’, which has a lot to do with resilience, a concept that has become very popular lately, and that is originally borrowed from Physics and Engineering, with which the ability of a material to recover its original shape after being subjected to a deforming pressure is described. “In people, resilience tries to express the ability of an individual to face adverse circumstances, difficult life conditions, or potentially traumatic situations, and recover from it stronger and with more resources,” says psychiatrist Roberto Pereira, director of the Basque-Navarra School of Family Therapy. When asked if there is ever enough happiness, the Harvard professor replies: “It is precisely the expectation of being perfectly happy that makes us less so.” In the end, the feeling of happiness,