Sleeping with your partner is one of the simplest, but most enjoyable pleasures of life together, because it represents a space of intimacy and sharing emotions. Most people prefer to sleep hugging their partner, it is an almost immediate sensation when lying in bed. The question is who hugs whom?
The position known as the ‘spoon’ is when one of the two people allows themselves to be hugged by their partner when resting. For some men, this position is uncomfortable and unmanly, because they feel that the woman is the one who dominates the situation, but psychoanalyst Steve McKeown affirms that people who prefer this position are better long-term partners, and men are more sensitive, They seek to please and are in greater contact with their feminine side, which gives them greater emotional intelligence, which is always an advantage for any couple. The ‘spoon’ position demonstrates a protective dynamic in the couple, where one covers the other. It is a very vulnerable position that says ‘I trust you’. It has almost always been seen as masculine, but more and more women are taking on the protective role. The way we sleep and our favorite position in bed can speak volumes about our personality. That is why we can say that many men who prefer the ‘spoon’ sleeping position feel happier and have a more satisfying relationship, as can be read in an article published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.
This article is based on research carried out by a group of researchers, including psychologist Julia Heiman, where more than a thousand couples between the ages of 40 and 70 were asked if they were married or had been living together more than a year. The study was carried out in several countries, such as the United States, Brazil, Germany and Japan.
The results of the study show that men confess that caresses, kisses, hugs and sleeping on a ‘spoon’ are important factors in their relationship and showed that, believe it or not, they think about it much more than women. The study also shows that men are happier in their relationship when both enjoy a good general state of health, because this allows them to perform well sexually, therefore, being able to bring their partner to orgasm and achieve it themselves. themselves.
On the other hand, the women in the study said that the happiness of a relationship is based on intimate activity and that they feel that they are more fulfilling as the years go by. Both sexes agreed that full satisfaction in intimacy was found when intercourse was frequent and when they cuddled to sleep.
We can also add what is indicated by the study published in The Wall Street Journal, prepared by Andrea Petersen, where it indicates that sleeping accompanied, completely naked and in the ‘spoon’ position provides several health benefits, in addition to causing states of happiness extreme. Some scientists claim that those people who share their bed with someone else, for some considerable time, sleep better, are happier, healthier and even live longer. This is because sleeping with a partner establishes a very intimate relationship that promotes positive feelings and empathy, and the ‘spoon’ position improves all these aspects, because the approach is greater, both physically and emotionally.
It is true that there are some studies that indicate that sleeping together causes individuals to sleep less, because they share the same space, the same blankets and can result in spending the whole night struggling with the movements of the other person, snoring and not resting when one hundred percent, but the most recent study ensures that the benefits are always greater than the inconvenience that, without a doubt, exist when sharing a bed with someone else, as indicated by the assistant professor of Psychology at the University of Pittsburgh, Wendy Troxel, ” the psychological and emotional benefits outweigh the costs of sleeping with a sleep partner.”
Sleeping together and preferring the ‘spoon’ position promotes feelings of security, of protection for the other person, especially in men who are not very used to expressing their feelings, in this way they are vulnerable and willing to feel protected by their partner. By sleeping on a ‘spoon’, the physical distance between both bodies is reduced and this decreases cortisol levels (the stress hormone), while reducing the production of cytokines (linked to inflammation) and significantly stimulates the production of oxytocin, better known as the ‘hormone of love and attachment’; all of the above combats anxiety and raises the level of well-being, physically, mentally and emotionally.
Now, scientists don’t stop at recommending cuddling; indicate that the best thing is that we go to sleep together, spoon and totally naked. In this way the feeling of closeness and security is greater. A study carried out in the United Kingdom revealed that, of a thousand respondents, 57 percent slept with their partners totally naked and were the ones who reported the highest levels of happiness.
So now you know, if your partner asks you to hug him ‘spoon’, take advantage of it and enjoy it to the fullest, you will be strengthening your relationship without making a huge effort and you will obtain enormous benefits. Do it more and more frequently and practice every night you can.