How to tell your girl that she sucks at giving you oral sex

There is a bad fellatio.

Speaking as a man, I can tell you that there are few things worse than a bad blowjob. That may seem hard to believe. But as the old saying goes, “Sex is like pizza, even when it’s bad, it’s still pretty good.”

I’m telling you though, there are few things men picture in their minds more than a blowjob, so when it disappoints, it disappoints HARD.

And it’s even worse when oral sex is bad, even if it’s your first experience with oral sex.

To say that my first blowjob was a supreme disappointment would be the understatement of the century. Leave the experience forgotten, disillusioned.

One day, while making out in my parents’ apartment, the new and best girlfriend slides down my body, stops by my belt and asks, “Do you want me to do it?”

I spent about 10 seconds completely dumbfounded by the question and then it dawned on me. “Um… yes! Yes! Please!”

This was.

This was the moment I was finally going to realize why all the best songs, books and movies had to do with sex. Yes, the sexual act itself had been surprisingly smooth, hardly felt better than masturbating. But THIS…this was GOOD JOB.

This was going to change my life. This was going to be like being a porn star. This was going to be EPIC.

He unbuttons my pants, I close my eyes in anticipation and…

After 10 seconds, I open my eyes. I need something to tell me what’s going on.

Yes, my penis is in her mouth. Technically now I’m having oral sex. (Good for me.) But… nothing happens. I’m just… sitting there.

She looks at me smiling. She smiled back at him. “What the hell do I do?” I think that. She’s giving me “Oh yeah, you like that” looks , so she obviously thinks she’s doing SOMETHING. But for my part I can’t detect anything at all.

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It’s like she’s sitting there, holding a sausage in her mouth without biting into it. (Not that he wanted her to bite him.) She closed her eyes, trying to detect any movement or technique. Her head is motionless. I can’t feel her tongue at all. And if I’m honest, I think at times I can feel small gusts of air.

“Is she really blowing on my penis? Is that what she thinks she is a blowjob? «

But I don’t say anything because… how come you don’t say anything? When someone has your penis in their mouth, the only socially acceptable reaction seems to be gratitude. And what am I going to do? Give him notes? We both know this is my first blowjob so I literally have nothing to compare it to.

That was my darkest moment. Realizing that nothing was going to save me from the deep disappointments of my first sexual experiences. Sex had been so mythologized in my youth that I expected something revealing, something akin to a religious experience the first time a girl touched my penis.

And, when sex hadn’t fulfilled that role, I bundled all that spiritual doubt into the idea of ​​fellatio, imagining that it would somehow fill the hole that sex had left behind.

But it was not like that. They were incredibly high expectations, and sex, at least for me, never felt like an electric shock of pure satisfaction. In the future, after more relationships and a marriage, she would learn that sex was more difficult than she expected, that it required more work, but it could also feel wonderful, passionate and intense… with the right person.

Unfortunately, that hard-earned knowledge wasn’t much help to me at the age of 17, while receiving the worst blowjob of my life.

And I am not the only one.

That so many guys don’t know how to communicate with their partner.

Because how can a woman be good at blowjobs if she doesn’t know how to do it?

When no one gives you their opinion?

When nobody gives you advice and compliments for those things that you are doing well?

It’s so critical.

Because who doesn’t love blowjobs? And it seems that many men are receiving it. According to a study published by the Journal of Human Sexuality , women are humiliating men when it comes to the speed with which they have sex. But if your wife sucks at sucking, you’re still not winning, are you?

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How to help your girlfriend give blowjobs

It can be hard to tell your girl that her mouth game is weak. However, there are ways to break the news to her without hurting her ego, or ruining your chances of getting a blow job again. Stop fighting the inevitable. If you want a good blowjob, you’ll have to teach him how to get the best out of you. Time to put on your director’s hat. She thinks of you as the expert in bed and the goal is to get her to do the right thing.

1. Start the conversation warmly .

Before you close her, show her some love for her willingness to repeatedly put your p*d* in her mouth. You can start with something like, “Honey, I enjoy when you hug me and I appreciate that you’re doing it…”

Once you’ve made your statements in a good way, tell him some of the things he does that you like; even if it does everything wrong, there is something to praise.

 For example: “I love how wet your mouth is.”

The goal is to affirm that you like him. If she shows you too harsh, she may get defensive and close up shop.

2. Show him how you like

No, that doesn’t mean a threesome. Send him a link to a video showing how you would like him to use his mouth next time.

Use the kind of images (instructive, kinky, romantic) that can help her know how she can improve. It continues with a message asking her if she’s up for the challenge. You can turn your suggestions into a personal challenge between the two of you, and make the journey of improvement fun.

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3. Respond in real life

If she’s not doing what you like, the next time she does, be direct and tell her how you like it. You can say something like “She uses more saliva” or “She opens her mouth wider.”

You can give instructions and take the lead on the spot, but don’t become a sergeant just by giving orders. Approaching the situation in this way will prevent you from attacking her with negative thoughts and will go straight to solving the problem.

 4. Organize a night giving him a crash course

Some people learn better with direct instructions. If that’s the case, make it sexy. Surprise her with a date night that concludes with a class on oral sex techniques. Order an online course that will teach you how to improve your skills, and use fruits to practice that can serve as dessert. You can even search YouTube for videos or get her a book on oral sex skills and read it together. However you decide to do it, be proactive in giving her the help she needs in an entertaining way.

Improve your skills too

That course night is a perfect opportunity to improve your skills too. He perfectly learns to lick his cone. Learn all about every sensitive part of her body. Ask him to tell you how to lick it, to show how he likes to be touched.

This is your chance to become a better man in bed.

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A royal man.

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