Emotional infidelity is one of the couple problems that have increased separations, but sometimes it is difficult to detect. Emotional infidelity is also known as affective infidelity, and is dedicated to feelings, emotions or thoughts, instead of physical intimacy, where the amount of energy that the person diverts towards someone other than their partner, is extreme and very strong, so the main relationship is compromised.
When we talk about infidelity, be it physical or emotional, we are faced with inexplicable pain, emotions are on the surface and there are all kinds of justifications to ‘explain’ the act. Sometimes an emotional betrayal can hurt more than a physical one. Many people try to define what yes and what is not emotional infidelity, to what extent a simple flirtation, a WhatsApp conversation, the frequency with which we write to another person and the degree of intimacy of those conversations, sending photographs, everything It has to do with technology and social networks. Many relationships ask themselves the question: is my partner cheating on me? Before you want to find answers, the most important thing you have to do is stop obsessing over infidelity,
Although physical contact is not involved, there are many things that are deposited in the other person who is not the couple, such as attention, flattery, words and signs of affection. If you have any suspicion that this is happening, some signs will confirm it. · Sexual intercourse has increased or decreased drastically. When a person feels emotionally connected to another person, he either transports the physical connection to her partner, or feels guilty and turns to sex to heal her guilt. In other cases, the opposite can happen and the activity in bed becomes non-existent. · Hides every time your phone rings. If you realize that every time a notification arrives, it changes places or hides to be able to answer the calls. If your calls are a complete mystery or you receive messages at dawn, it is a sign that something is wrong. · He is more distant with you. When you have the emotional support of another person, the interest in the couple decreases, because that need is covered. It is natural that our attention is placed on those for whom we feel attraction. While emotional distance cannot be counted, time spent together can, as far as you can ‘measure’ the number of hours spent together week to week. · Criticizes things that I didn’t even notice before. If apart from being distant with you, he begins to change his attitude and make unpleasant comments about things that he did not notice before, he gets angry without any explanation and everything you do is wrong. When you have the emotional support of another person, the interest in the couple decreases, because that need is covered. It is natural that our attention is placed on those for whom we feel attraction. While emotional distance cannot be counted, time spent together can, as far as you can ‘measure’ the number of hours spent together week to week. · Criticizes things that I didn’t even notice before. If apart from being distant with you, he begins to change his attitude and make unpleasant comments about things that he did not notice before, he gets angry without any explanation and everything you do is wrong. When you have the emotional support of another person, the interest in the couple decreases, because that need is covered. It is natural that our attention is placed on those for whom we feel attraction. While emotional distance cannot be counted, time spent together can, as far as you can ‘measure’ the number of hours spent together week to week. · Criticizes things that I didn’t even notice before. If apart from being distant with you, he begins to change his attitude and make unpleasant comments about things that he did not notice before, he gets angry without any explanation and everything you do is wrong. While emotional distance cannot be counted, time spent together can, as far as you can ‘measure’ the number of hours spent together week to week. · Criticizes things that I didn’t even notice before. If apart from being distant with you, he begins to change his attitude and make unpleasant comments about things that he did not notice before, he gets angry without any explanation and everything you do is wrong. While emotional distance cannot be counted, time spent together can, as far as you can ‘measure’ the number of hours spent together week to week. · Criticizes things that I didn’t even notice before. If apart from being distant with you, he begins to change his attitude and make unpleasant comments about things that he did not notice before, he gets angry without any explanation and everything you do is wrong.
· Your interest in technology increases. Before, he used his cell phone for the essentials, but now he needs to have his phone in his hand all day to be able to live. He is always connected and checking his social networks. If he does not talk to you with whom he is writing, it is because he is doing something wrong and he feels guilty. At some point you will realize that you are acting incorrectly and will avoid the subject. A 2014 study conducted at Columbia University concluded that active use of social media leads to more related conflicts between romantic partners, which in turn leads to infidelity, separation, or divorce. · Appears disinterested. Your partner stops paying attention to issues related to the couple, he doesn’t care, he doesn’t want to ‘waste time’ with you, he doesn’t want to talk or argue. Total indifference. · Has excessive mood swings. A person has anxiety and mood swings when trying to hide something from a loved one. If you start noticing that your partner has more mood swings than usual, you need to have a talk to make sure there is nothing in particular that bothers you. It may also be that he becomes a jealous person. It is a defense mechanism called transference of feelings. If they are cheating on you, they convince themselves that they are doing the same to them. · Your partner feels a sudden interest in appearance. If your partner suddenly takes a keen interest in their appearance, spends hours at the gym, buys new clothes, wears perfume, but doesn’t seem to care if you notice the changes, then start worrying.
· No eye contact. Or there is excessive eye contact. Most people feel uncomfortable when they are cheating on their partner. Bad liars won’t be able to look you in the eye. On the other hand, there are people who are very comfortable with lying, who maintain eye contact for too long, as if this way they are determined to convince you that they are telling the truth.
· You feel anxious for an excuse to get out of the house. He always behaves anxiously after receiving a call or message, so he looks for any excuse to leave the house alone. Our instincts may be the most reliable we can hope for. However, that doesn’t mean you should run off and accuse your partner of cheating on you without showing proof. But if you have a deep, nagging feeling that your partner is cheating on you, don’t ignore it. Seriously consider where that feeling is coming from and talk to your partner about your concerns. When your partner drifts apart, it will be difficult to know if you are dealing with a bad moment in the relationship, or if he is hiding something from you. Maybe he hasn’t slept with someone else, but he is cheating on you emotionally. It is difficult to realize that an emotional infidelity is happening, but if your instinct tells you something, listen to it. If you have identified any of the signs described above, you must make the best decision for you and your partner, even if it means ending the relationship.
