The best gift for children is called TIME. They do not sell it in toy stores or online. You can’t even see how it comes wrapped, but nevertheless, when they get it, their little eyes sparkle with happiness. It is not seen because time is within us, in our disposition and in our way of making them understand that there is nothing so important that it forces us to quickly turn the pages of their favorite story.
Because it is only through the time we dedicate to them that children can perceive the magic of the love we feel for them. Because this spell didn’t seem like it when we left them the cell phone, the tablet or we plugged the TV into their favorite channel.
This is not how the most important link in our lives is created. A secure attachment is solidly created with time, education, care and affection. This is the only way to weave the fabric of a strong emotional interior in a time of infinite changes that need to be shared with adults.
A moving story that reflects the importance of parenting
Night had already fallen but a little boy was making great efforts to stay awake. The reason was well worth it: he was waiting for his father. The mischievous eyes were falling heavily when the door opened and his dad appeared after a long day.
Son: “Dad, can I ask you a question?”
Father: “Yes, of course, what is it?”
Son: “Dad, how much money do you make in an hour?” He said with wide eyes. His father, between annoyed and tired, was very blunt in his response.
Father: “That is none of your business, why do you ask me such a thing?”
Son: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you earn for an hour?”
The pope, annoyed, answered with a simple: “€100 per hour”.
Son: “Oh, dad, can I borrow €50?” I reply sadly.
Parent: “If the only reason you want to know how much I make is to borrow money to buy you some silly toy, then stay in your room, don’t go out and think about why you’re being so selfish. I work hard every day to deal with this childish behavior.” – I answer furious.
The boy quietly closed the door to his room. The man sat up and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s question. “How dare you ask such questions just to get some money?” After an hour or so, the man calmed down and began to think: “maybe there was something I really needed to buy with that €50, after all, the boy didn’t ask for money very often”. So, he went to the door of the boy’s room and opened the door.
Father: “Are you asleep, son?”
Son: “No dad, I’m awake.”
Parent: “I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you. It’s been a long day and I took out my frustration on you. Here is the €50 you asked me for…”
The boy straightened up, smiling.
Son: “Oh, thanks Dad!” The boy whispered as he put his little hand under the pillow and took out several coins.
Then he gets up and grabs some crumpled bills and coins from under his pillow. The man saw that the boy already had money and started to get angry again. The boy slowly counted his money and then looked at his father…
Dad: “Why do you want more money if you already have enough?”
Son: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do”, -he answered enthusiastically- “Dad, now I have €100. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow, I would like to have dinner with you.” The father felt distressed. He put his arms around his little son and begged for his forgiveness.
If children could buy our time, they would without hesitation.
Educating successfully is partly synonymous with sharing moments “on a slow fire” , of respecting rhythms and giving the little ones time to develop. For this, one of the main responsibilities of parents is to help the little ones evolve in company and without stress.
Offering unhurried time means explaining things calmly, letting them ask questions and creating a comfortable climate to answer them with interest and calm. It is about living promoting moments with children to share secrets, concerns, thoughts and emotions.
Creating ties based on this premise offers our little ones the psychological oxygen they need. Without stress, without demands, without expectations measured without being attentive to the movement of the cruel second hand of our clock. We cannot allow rushing to steal the magic from childhood. That is why the best gift is of higher quality, it is not the command center of fashionable cartoons or the latest Disney dolls. The best gift is to share with them the most precious asset that exists in life and that never returns: time.
Source: you are mom